If you do these 10 things, you care too much about what other people think

Ever feel like you’re constantly looking over your shoulder, worried about what others might be thinking?

You’re not alone.

Many of us fall into the trap of giving too much weight to other people’s opinions.

Before diving into the 10 telltale signs, remember: it’s natural to care, but not to the point where it holds you back.

Let’s see if you’re giving others too much power over your feelings.

Ready? Let’s dive in. 

1. Overanalyzing Every Interaction

A short chat with a coworker, a quick comment from a friend, or even just a passing nod from a neighbor.

Instead of taking it at face value, you replay it in your mind, dissecting every word and gesture. “Did they sound sarcastic?” “Was that a pity smile?” “Why did they look away so quickly?”

If you find yourself deep in detective mode after every interaction, scrutinizing tiny details for hidden meanings or judgments, you might be caring a bit too much about what they think.

Remember: Most times, a conversation is just a conversation. Don’t let overthinking rob you of your peace.

2. Changing Your Choices Based on Others

Remember when you were a kid, and you wanted those neon sneakers just because everyone else had them?

Funny thing, some of us still have that kid inside us. Instead of neon sneakers, now it’s about choosing a job, a hobby, or even a favorite cafe.

If you often find yourself making or changing decisions based on what’s popular, or to fit into someone else’s idea of “cool”, you might be treading in the “caring too much” zone.

I once ditched my favorite quirky T-shirt just because a friend didn’t like it. Looking back, it wasn’t the shirt but the fear of judgment.

Embrace what feels right for you, not someone else. It’s your path, not a popularity contest.

3. Avoiding Compliments Like They’re Hot Potatoes

Now, this one might sound odd, but stay with me.

Ever been complimented and instead of a simple “thank you,” you downplay, deflect, or dodge?

Something like, “Oh, this old thing? I just threw it on!” or “I was just lucky this time.”

It might seem like modesty, but if you’re consistently shying away from praise, it might be because you’re too concerned about appearing boastful or conceited in the eyes of others.

Counterintuitively, being unable to accept a compliment can indicate that you’re hyper-aware of how you’re perceived.

A healthy balance is key: it’s okay to acknowledge your achievements and good qualities without fearing judgment.

4. Constantly Apologizing Even When It’s Not Needed

“Sorry, can I ask something?” “Sorry, I didn’t catch that.” “Sorry, but I think…”

Sound familiar?

While politeness is great, there’s a difference between genuine apologies and saying sorry as a reflex.

If you find yourself sprinkling “sorry” throughout your day, even in situations where it’s uncalled for, it may be a sign you’re overly concerned with not upsetting others or appearing wrong.

You have every right to ask questions, share your opinion, or occupy space without constantly apologizing for it.

Speak confidently; you deserve to be heard without the added weight of unnecessary guilt.

5. Holding Back Your True Self Out of Fear

There’s a little spark in all of us that makes us unique.

Maybe you have an eccentric sense of humor, a passion for collecting vintage teacups, or you just love dancing in the rain.

Whatever it is, if you find yourself suppressing these genuine parts of you because you’re afraid of being judged or misunderstood, then you’re missing out on the beauty of authentic living.

I’ve been there – hiding my quirky love for old jazz records just because it wasn’t “cool” among my peers.

It’s tough, but the world deserves the unfiltered you.

When you embrace your true self, not only do you feel freer, but you also attract people who appreciate and love the real you.

6. Seeking Validation for Every Little Thing

Imagine making a small decision – like picking a new book to read or trying a new hobby – and feeling the urge to ask everyone for their opinion before proceeding.

If you’re constantly seeking validation or approval for choices that should be purely personal, it’s a sign you might be weighing other’s opinions a tad too much.

I remember being hesitant to pick up a paintbrush because I was told I had no artistic bone in my body.

But when I finally did, I realized the joy wasn’t in the validation but in the act itself.

Sometimes, it’s about the journey and not the applause at the end.

7. Sacrificing Your Comfort to Fit In

Ever squeezed into shoes a size too small just because they were “in”?

Or maybe endured a social event you had zero interest in, only to maintain appearances?

If you’re regularly compromising your own comfort or preferences to mold into someone else’s expectation or a perceived standard, you’re sidelining your own happiness.

Your comfort, both physically and mentally, should never play second fiddle to fitting in.

Being in sync with yourself and prioritizing your well-being will always be more rewarding than temporary approval.

Remember, it’s okay to step back and prioritize yourself.

8. Over-sharing to Seem Interesting

In an age of social media and constant connectivity, there’s sometimes an underlying pressure to lead an ‘interesting’ life.

If you find yourself exaggerating stories, sharing every detail of your day, or constantly posting on social media in a bid to grab attention or prove how ‘exciting’ your life is, you might be leaning into this trap.

True connections and relationships are built on authenticity, not theatrics.

It’s essential to recognize that you don’t need to put on a show to be valued or appreciated.

Everyone has their own pace and journey; it’s more fulfilling to live it genuinely than to merely perform it.

9. Avoiding Confrontation at All Costs

Confrontation isn’t fun. But if you’re always sidestepping conflicts, even when it’s essential to stand up for yourself or your beliefs, it’s worth considering why.

Avoiding confrontation often stems from a fear of being disliked or causing discomfort.

However, swallowing your feelings or beliefs just to keep the peace can lead to long-term resentment and suppress your authentic voice.

While it’s essential to choose your battles wisely, standing up for what’s right or what you believe in is equally important.

Being honest, even when it’s tough, showcases integrity and self-respect.

And sometimes, those honest conversations can lead to stronger, more genuine relationships.

10. Comparing Your Behind-The-Scenes to Everyone Else’s Highlight Reel

It’s so easy to fall into this trap, especially in our digital age.

You see your friend’s tropical vacation photos, another’s promotion announcement, or someone’s perfect family portrait, and suddenly your cozy night in feels underwhelming.

I’ve taken pictures on days when everything seemed perfect on the outside, but inside, I was wrestling with self-doubt and anxiety.

Remember, social media often showcases the best moments, leaving out the mundane or challenging ones.

So, before you go down the rabbit hole of comparison, remind yourself that everyone has their struggles and off days; they just might not be posting them.

Celebrate your journey, the ups and downs, because it’s uniquely yours.